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Marriage is a bit like a house: if the foundations are shaky, it will eventually leak, shake... or collapse. And yet, in this beautiful adventure together, no one gives you a bonus user guide with the ring. Fortunately, there are what we call the 5 pillars of marriage , those famous ingredients that transform a couple into a dynamic duo, even after the dirty socks and the debates about how to cook the pasta properly.
Let's not beat around the bush: these pillars are simple to understand, but not always easy to apply. It's not magic, but a clever mix of attention, listening, respect, and sometimes, nervous laughter after a rotten day.
So, are you ready to discover what really makes a relationship last? Without further ado, here are the 5 pillars of marriage , the ones that can save your relationship on a rainy Sunday evening... or simply make life together more beautiful.
Ah, communication , that word we see everywhere but sometimes half-heartedly apply. In a marriage, it's THE basic pillar. The one that, if solid, can avoid a lot of headaches.
Communicating isn't just about saying 'Can you buy some bread?' or 'Have you seen my keys?' No. Communicating is about knowing how to express what you feel, what you think, what you hope for... a bit like choosing a wedding dress , it's also a question of reflection, feeling and sincerity... and above all, listening to what the other person has to say (even if it's not what you wanted to hear).
Because we change. Because no two days are the same. And because we can't solve problems big or small by playing the passive-aggressive silence game (you know, that look that says "you should guess what I have").
We set aside real time to talk (not just between two episodes of a series).
We avoid talking about children, work, or the weather.
We dare to say what is wrong, without accusing , but by sharing our feelings.
And above all, we learn to listen... without preparing our response in our head while the other person is speaking.
In short, talking saves (love) lives .
Trust is a bit like a houseplant. If you forget about it for too long or water it with soda (meaning lies), it dies.
In a marriage, it's the emotional foundation. Trusting each other means being able to breathe easy, feeling safe, and above all, not turning your relationship into an episode of a detective series ("where were you at 7:47 p.m. exactly?"), just as we avoid the quest for the bohemian wedding dress becoming an endless investigation.
Good news: it's built day by day. Bad news: it can also break in a minute. That's why it requires transparency , honesty , and a minimum of predictability .
We say what we do, and we do what we say.
We avoid little lies "to protect the other" (they often end up exploding like fireworks).
We don't spy on each other (unless it's to find out what they want as a birthday present, then that's fine).
And above all, we act in such a way that the other feels respected, not betrayed.
Nothing is lost, but it will take time. A lot of time. And concrete proof that we can rely on each other again. It's a difficult road, but possible. We're far from fairy tales, but true love is precisely about getting back up together.
Respect isn't just about saying 'please' and 'thank you' (although that never hurts). It's much more than that: it's about accepting the other person in their entirety, with their qualities... and their quirks, a bit like putting on a unique and precious princess wedding dress , while being aware of their character and shape.
In a marriage, respecting each other means understanding that you'll never agree 100% on everything , and that's okay. You don't have to have the same taste in music, or the same way of folding napkins (spoiler: there's no right way).
We don't put others down, even for "joking".
We do not denigrate our opinion in front of others.
We accept our emotions, even if we don't understand them.
We don't treat him like a passing roommate.
Here too, respect is crucial. Buying a house? Having a child? Changing jobs? These are choices that must be made by two people, with listening , dialogue, and a good dose of compromise.
Because respecting others also means making room for them in your life decisions . Not just sending them a text message afterward: "By the way, I signed up for a solo trip to Alaska, kisses."
We wish love alone would be enough. We wish butterflies in our stomachs would solve everything. But in real life, it's acts of commitment that make a relationship last.
Commitment isn't just about saying 'I love you' at night while brushing your teeth. It's also about saying 'I'm here, even when things get tough.' Because marriage is like a TV show: there are boring episodes, cliffhangers, seasons that are more or less successful... just like a mermaid wedding dress , which, even if it seems perfect at the time, also requires adjustments and compromises over time. And yet, we keep going.
Being there when the other needs you, even without asking.
Support each other in projects, even when they seem crazy.
Making choices together, thinking about the future of the couple.
Fight for the relationship, not against each other.
Commitment isn't a prison. It's a renewed choice to stay together, even when hormones go on strike , even when the other person snores, or forgets (again) to take out the trash.
Finally, the little gem, the pillar that adds sparkle to everyday life: complicity .
It's this magic that makes it possible to laugh together over nothing, to have jokes that no one else understands, and to spend an evening doing nothing without getting bored, a bit like finding yourself choosing a Short Wedding Dress : a simple moment, but so special.
Look at each other and know what the other is thinking.
Laugh together, especially in times of stress.
Having crazy things together, even if they are a bit weird.
Knowing how to comfort another, without even a word.
By doing activities together (yes, even an escape game or karaoke).
By sending each other cute or silly messages during the day.
By continuing to seduce each other , even after years.
And above all, by keeping that little curiosity for each other. Because even after 15 years, there's always something to discover.
Having the 5 pillars is good. But you also need to maintain them . Like a car or a vegetable garden: if you forget them for too long, they rust or fade.
The key is consistency . You're not going to save your marriage with one romantic weekend a year. It's the little everyday touches that make the difference. A sweet word. A cup of coffee brewed in the morning. A stolen hug in passing. A sincere listening ear after a bad day.
Marriage isn't a goal. It's a journey. And these five pillars are your comfortable shoes for going far, together, and avoiding blisters. Find out more here .
To put it simply (and for those who scrolled this far, yes, we see you):
Communication : because guessing is so 2007.
Trust : The antidote to marital spy movies.
Respect : loving without wanting to reshape the other in Play-Doh fashion.
Commitment : because love is also about actions.
Complicity : to laugh, even when everything goes to hell.
A strong marriage isn't a myth. Nor is it an exact science. But with these five pillars, a little goodwill, and a lot of humor, you can make your relationship last as long as you want .
And if you don't believe in it anymore? Talk about it. Try. Because sometimes, a pillar can be repaired. And even strengthened. Together.